Timing is Everything

In recent years, things seem to happen for me at just the right times. Even the bad things. Back in August, I had a conversation with a friend where I said I felt I was ready for a change, only I had no idea what that change would be. Lo and behold, I come home the first week of September to find an eviction letter in my door. In truth, it was just a “scare tactic” used by my apartment complex office to get tenants to turn in their lease renewal paperwork. But the dang thing gave me a heart attack, much needed motivation, and the legal out I needed to pick up and move. So I did.

Move to timing number two. The morning after receiving the letter, before I knew it wasn’t for real, a co-worker suggested I try an apartment complex in which she’d lived several years ago. It’s in a beautiful old neighborhood in Virginia Beach with super schools. Bonus – it cut my commute to work by half. I called and they had an apartment available almost immediately. From what I understand, there is usually a waiting list for this place. I loved it, loved the area and signed the lease the following week.

Another thing that happened back in August, I met a guy. Things seemed good if confusing and uncertain at first. But that’s pretty typical. Turned out well since he and a few other people I recently met helped me move. Never could have done it without the manpower. So we got everything moved in and things looked good. Unfortunately, it came to an end today. And though I’m disappointed, I’ll survive. Mostly because I always do.

Back to the timing thing. I’ve been sitting at my desk feeling sorry for myself today. But then I heard the new Nickelback song. It’s called Gotta Be Somebody and here is just some of the lyrics…

Gotta Be Somebody – Nickelback

This time, I wonder what it feels like

To find the one in this life, the one we all dream of

But dreams just aren’t enough

So I’ll be waiting for the real thing, I’ll know it by the feeling

The moment when we’re meeting, will play out like a scene

Straight off the silver screen

So I’ll be holding my own breath, right up ’til the end

Until that moment when, I find the one that I’ll spend forever with

Cause nobody wants to be the last one there

Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares

Someone to love with my life in their hands

There’s gotta be somebody for me like that

Cause nobody wants to do it all on their own

And everyone wants to know they’re not alone

There’s somebody else that feels the same somewhere

There’s gotta be somebody for me out there

Talk about perfect timing. Put a kink in my “I’ll be alone forever!” pity party. LOL! I’m still going to be touch and go for a little while, but I have faith that everything happens for a reason. So I’ll keep my eyes open, work on that positive thinking (which has been HARD today), and wait for the next specially timed event.

Have you noticed things happening at just the right time in your life? Do you believe in fate or that some things are meant to be? Do you have a special song that reminds you things aren’t so bad? And if you hate Nickelback, don’t tell me cause I love them! LOL!

13 thoughts on “Timing is Everything”

  1. Hey, at least the guy was good for the move, LOL. I think things tend to come in batches—a bunch of good things, a bunch of bad. At least that’s what happens to me. I survive it all, not getting TOO happy or TOO sad.

    But I am a person who cries when I listen to country music in the car, even when I know I’ve been manipulated. So far I haven’t crashed going to work.

    Enjoy your new digs!

  2. terrio says:

    Wow, Maggie, you’re quick. I’d swear I posted this only minutes ago. LOL!

    Thanks for showing me the bright side. And I’ve been lucky in the last couple of years that the good has more than out-weighed the bad. I fully believe that’s a result of the positive thinking.

    Or I’m deluding myself. Either way works!

  3. irisheyes says:

    Hey, Ter, sending hugs your way. I’ve been working on the positive attitude for years and I’m getting very good at it. I was a huge Eeyore when I was younger. I also grew up with a mother who gave me a platitude every single time I was upset or depressed. It made me feel like what I was feeling wasn’t important. So, the positive attitude is awesome and being positive makes it easier on everyone else around you, but I’m giving you permission to let yourself have your pity party for a while. Let yourself grieve and feel sorry for yourself just for a little bit and then move on.

    I also believe in fate and things happening for a reason and at the time you need it to happen. I’m believing more and more that you attract the positive or negative to you depending on your attitude. It’s funny cause when I was younger I thought “Catholic” – if I want something too much God won’t let me have it because I didn’t deserve to be happy or wanting was a bad thing/sinful. Now I think if I visualize what I want and where I want to be it will come to me (and that I finally deserve it gosh-darnit!).

    And I’ve been listening to Nickelback all week (my kids are on a Far Away kick – they keep playing it on Youtube! LOL)

  4. irisheyes says:

    Wow – long post. You always turn me into a “Gabby Gert!” LOL

  5. terrio says:

    Irish – I love your long posts. They’re always smart and wise and make me want to hug you. LOL! I’m fine, really. I figure the recovery time should be commensurate to the length of the relationship. As this was pretty much a blip, I’m pretty much all better. LOL!

    And I never got that Catholic bit about not deserving things. I think I must have rationalized that stuff like that was screwy from a very early age. πŸ™‚

  6. J.K. Coi says:

    I love the Rockstar song by Nickelback!!!

    And I agree, things happen for a reason, when they’re supposed to–whether it’s because we need it and don’t even know that yet, or because we’re supposed to learn from it in order to move onto the next, better phase of our lives–so I’m very happy for you that you’ve made your move, and definitely put a stop to that pity party because you’ll meet the one that’s right for you when it’s right!

  7. J.K. Coi says:

    Ok, maybe that’s not making much sense, but I think you know what I mean, right?

  8. terrio says:

    I’m with you all the way, JK. LOL! And yeah, sometimes you don’t realize you needed to go through it until you get to the next thing and are thankful for the added knowledge.

  9. Quantum says:

    Terri, really sorry, you deserve better from this world!

    For every sunset there is a new dawn and the world spins on.

    I’m Thinking of you.

  10. terrio says:

    Q – Thanks for your support. And the hugs. As cheesy as it sounds, I’ve often reminded myself the sun will come out tomorrow and the world goes on and I just have to get up and keep going. So far, it’s always worked. πŸ™‚

  11. Janga says:

    I’m with Irish. I’m sending hugs and my permission to enjoy a pity party (a brief one). Then straighten your shoulders, tilt your chin, and get back to challenging the world. πŸ™‚

    I don’t believe in fate, but I do believe that things happen for a reason and that sometimes what seems to be a loss is just preparation for something better.

    For break-up songs, I like an old one, Butch Baker and Daniele Alexander duet “It Wasn’t You, It Wasn’t Me”: “Seasons change, and so do we.”

  12. Elyssa Papa says:

    I think things do happen for a reason…good or bad. Or rather, you tend to learn from both. And it always goes back and forth until in life.

    And it’s never your fault, Terri. It’s always the guy’s. *g* (This philosophy, of course, explains why I’m blissfully single). LOL.

  13. terrio says:

    Janga – pity party was short but much needed. And great point about things preparing us for something else. A few years ago I lost track of how many times I told myself God wouldn’t give me more than I could handle. Apparently, he thought I could handle a lot. πŸ™‚

    Ely – It is always their fault, I totally agree. LOL! Though this time, it was really a third party’s fault.

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