positive thinking

What I Want

on July 2, 2008

I’ve been preaching this positive thinking thing for a while. I’m no Pollyanna, but I’m close. My mantra is, “If you expect bad things to happen, then bad things will happen.” It’s sort of a longer way to say, “Have faith!” What people might not realize is that I haven’t always been this way.

I grew up in a family constantly looking over their collective shoulders. Very superstitious and very negative. There was always some disaster waiting around the corner for us to walk by so he could pounce. And if some misery did befall us, it was never due to our own actions or choices. Nope, it was the Universe conspiring against us.

A few years ago, I met someone who had a completely opposite view of life. He changed my life in many ways, but one of the best things he did for me was teach me to have faith. And I’m not talking religion. I have that kind of faith as well, but this is more faith in the Universe or Karma or whatever other force you want to imagine.

My mantra comes straight from my friend. He certainly said it to me often enough. The clincher happened when I followed his advice and noticed a real change. When I stopped waiting for the other shoe to fall, it didn’t. When I stopped expecting things to go wrong, they didn’t.

Now I have another friend who has gotten on this positive train with me. We’ve put a new plan into action where we are not only thinking positively, we’re writing it down. Sounds easy enough, right? Wrong.

I started writing my “What I Want” list today and found it’s harder than I expected. First, you have to know what you want. If I knew that, I probably wouldn’t need the list. Determined, I started typing and what I want sort of just showed up on the page. It’s a good list. Not too crazy, but no lowering of standards. That’s good for me. Since the list is quite personal, I won’t share the entire thing. But I will share the last bit because I figure it’s likely what most people want.

I want the courage to set my goals high, to accomplish those goals, and to push others to reach their true potential. I want to show my daughter how important it is to live, to laugh, and to love, but most of all to love herself. I want to be as healthy as I can be and to love myself enough to do what it takes to stay that way.

Do you believe you’re a positive person? What do you do to keep the faith? Have you tried making a list like this and if not are you willing to try? What are some of the (not so personal) things you’d put on your list? And I think we can all agree World Peace is on all our lists so we’ll call that a given.

Something told me NOT to buy the TV…

on April 23, 2008

Turns out, it was my truck. Yes, my truck knew. It knew that I was going to need that money for something else. Namely, a transmission.

My truck has been acting up since last fall. And I did have it looked at right away. I trusted that the mechanics knew what they were doing. Further proof that I am much too trusting.

So, on my trip to Pittsburgh this weekend, the truck decided it had been long enough. She was good enough to get me there and back, which knowing what I know now tells me she really loves me. But right now she is sitting in some garage having her transmission rebuilt.

I have determined that I am involuntarily restoring my vehicle to it’s original condition. She’s only eight years old so I’m pretty sure this won’t get me into any fancy car shows, but by the time I’m finished, I’m going to have a brand new vehicle…one part at a time.

So far I’ve put on new tires, new brakes, new batteries (yes, that’s plural), and a new alternator. Can’t forget the new radio, that’s important too. Now, you might think this is me complaining, but I’m not. I was lucky to find this truck when I did. I was desperate, driving a vehicle in dire need of expensive repairs, and was running out of time on my pre-approved loan.

You’re probably asking yourself, what is the point of this blog? Well, I’ll tell you. Five years ago, I would have seen all of this as the universe conspiring against me. I would have cried and wailed and sworn I had nothing but bad luck and I could never get a step ahead.

But not anymore. Now I know this is just part of life. Things break. Things wear out. And life is expensive at times. That’s just the way things go. My truck will be good as new in a few days, which means I don’t have to worry about it leaving me stranded 500 miles away from home, and I have a rental car so I’m not stuck without a way around. My life hasn’t even been interrupted.

So I suggest to you, attitude is everything. I am living proof that positive thinking works. I say this all the time and I’ll say it again – If you expect bad things to happen, bad things will happen. BUT – If you expect good things, they *will* come your way. My life is not perfect, but I’m happier, more secure, and better adjusted than I have ever been. To me, that’s all the proof I need.

Have you managed to keep the negativity at bay? Do you blame things on bad luck? Or do you roll with the punches and keep that positive attitude through thick and thin? If not, I promise you the slightest change in attitude can make a huge difference.

PS: That picture above is of my little rental car. It’s even the same color. It’s a Dodge Caliber and I would never buy one, but Kiddo just loves it. I have to admit, it’s nice to be able to put groceries in the back instead of in the truck bed.