Non-Adventures in Online Dating

For me, as I’m sure it did for many of you, 2016 sucked ass. Not 100% of the time. I bought my new house. Moved back to a great town. And won my first writing awards. Add in a lovely Christmas with family and it wasn’t all bad.

But a lot of it was stressful and kicked my butt and as a result, I dropped a lot of balls. A big one being this blog. So it’s time to get back on the horse, in more ways than one, and I figured why not do something crazy? Not jump out of a plane crazy, because I don’t have a death wish, but something out of my comfort zone.

I’m sure you’ve guessed my meaning from the title of this blog. That’s right. I’m going in. Online dating. The singles bar of the 21st century. This isn’t my first foray into this arena. For some reason, I give it a try every five years dating back to when I was 30. That’s back when Yahoo Personals was the only game in town, so that tells you how long ago it was.

Other than the first venture, the experiences haven’t been positive, which is probably why it takes five years to try again. I need time to forget the last dismal affair. So I’m back in the game and I’ll be sharing the journey.

What I won’t be sharing:

Names (of the innocent or guilty still remains to be seen)

Which sites I’m on

Personal details (think vague but clear enough to be understood)

I actually waded my way in at the end of the year and I have to tell you, there are a lot of folks on these sites. And the pics they choose to be a first impression are, um, interesting. Since I’m paying, I send messages when I find a guy who sounds nice. They never respond. Ever. Not even a no thanks. I get a message now and then, and one guy even called me beautiful. That didn’t suck.

Not sure how often I’ll have anything to share, but maybe I’ll slide in funny stories of my past experiences. As much as I’d like to forget some of them, they’re seared in my brain so I might as well use them for entertainment purposes. And if you have any online dating stories you want to share, or if you’re out here with me in the wild west of singlehood, let’s commiserate together.

10 thoughts on “Non-Adventures in Online Dating”

  1. Single in the hood says:

    I also am an online dater and am astounded at many people never initiate or respond to contact. But then, for at least 4 out 5 that do, I wish they hadn’t.

    1. Terri says:

      That’s been exactly my experience so far.

  2. CindyKirk says:

    I’ve been married for a long time (we were also high school sweethearts) but I love to hear dating stories! Best of luck!

    1. Terri says:

      Thank you. I think I’m going to need it. lol Congrats to you on getting it right the first time!

  3. Phyllis says:

    Good for you Terri? lol
    Dating and how you meet and get to know one another sure has changed since I was doing it 30 years ago. My husband and I say it a lot, glad I don’t have to wade through those waters anymore. There are more unknowns now than we had, and the times are so much scary. But…with that being said, there are still so many wonderful men out there that just like yourself only need that one chance to meet the right person to connect to. For that little spark in the conversation to say hey lets get to know each other better. Whether it gets you another friend or your significant other remains to be seen, but at least you will be on the right track.

    I whole heartedly believe there is someone right for everyone out there & they come along at the right time for you. I wish you all the luck in the world with this. Be careful and enjoy. You are so beautiful inside and out, just let it show.

    1. Terri says:

      Thank you so much. I never planned to be dating at my age, but life doesn’t always go as planned, now does it? What to write in the profile is the tough part. I never know what to say.

      1. Phyllis says:

        Just say who you are. A mom, a writer a goof ball. lol You love music and having on…Say what type of books you write and why. Say what makes you you. That’s all. Let you heart lead, but not too much yet. 😉

        1. Terri says:

          Funny you should say that. I plan to write a blog about the dating profile. It isn’t as simple as you think, but I doubt you’ll be surprised by what I’ve learned. 🙂

  4. Lindsay says:

    GOOOOD LUUUUUCK! I’m exciting to hear of your dating adventures. And maybe a new book will come from it all.

    1. Terri says:

      Thanks! And you never know what book fodder will come out of this.

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