Life’s Little Curve Balls…

Why is it the things that are good for us are rarely the things we want? It’s one of the mysteries of the universe. There is a line in a Cheryl Crow song that goes something like…It’s not having what you want, It’s wanting what you’ve got…My goodness that is so true. For me anyway. It’s like some sort of cosmic joke. You spend so much time wanting something good to happen and then when it does, you don’t want it. What’s up with that?

Take chocolate. No, don’t take my chocolate – unless you want to draw back a bloody stump – but chocolate in general. Who wouldn’t rather have a wonderful piece of chocolate fudge cake than a Caesar Salad? But which one is good for you? See? It’s annoying I tell you.

Take writing for example. It sounds like fun doesn’t it? Writing a romance novel, getting to create these characters and putting them into funny, dangerous or sexy situations. It would be a blast, right? Yeah, until you try it. Then it’s like having your teeth pulled with no Novocain while a schnauzer chews on your toes. Painful and annoying all at the same time.

But then you struggle through and you get to type the two most wonderful worlds in writing land. THE END. You print out your work and there you have it, a completed manuscript. I, of course, have not experienced this thrill first hand as of yet though I’m keeping the hope alive that I will within the next couple of months. But several of my friends have recently reached this pinnacle of accomplishment. Three cheers and a go away and stop gloating to all of you.

So, someone give me the answer. What is the trick to wanting what you’ve got? Because I really need to know. And if I could get the answer before the weekend I’d appreciate it. *g*

8 thoughts on “Life’s Little Curve Balls…”

  1. TiffinaC says:

    Interesting ponderings!

    I’d have to say if you wanted it to begin with you still must want it now, if you’ve drawn a little blood to get it. Make sense? I’m not sure.

    I can say, sometimes fears get in the way, and make you think you don’t want what you’ve wanted all along.

    It’s like the path not taken. Everyone has a comfort zone and when we step out of those bounds we want to run back under cover. When infact you should embrace that goal and maybe change your outlook on life a little bit.

    I hope this helps. I’m not sure if I even understand my cryptic message.

  2. MsHellion says:

    A Caesar Salad isn’t necessarily better for you than the chocolate cake. A salad with veggies and light dressing, sure, but not a Caesar Salad.

    Don’t let those of us who’ve “finished” fool you. There is plenty of rewrites.

    And I don’t think fear is crippling Terr. *LOL* I think she’s a bit of a perfectionist, and she doesn’t want to write The End until she thinks she’s got a “good enough draft”. It’s not fear-fear, it’s…okay, it’s fear. Fear of not measuring up to someone else’s writing, which is silly because you shouldn’t compare yourself to other people’s writing. That’s an exercise in depression.

    You’re allowed a shitty first draft. You’re not going to know everything about these people at the end. Or at least you won’t really until you write the end, then read it again from start to finish to figure out what needs filling and patching; what needs to be rewritten entirely; what needs to be cut out.

    You’re doing fine. I think the fact you’ve finally admitted you’re writing a book is a big step.

  3. MsHellion says:

    P.S. You can have chocolate cake made with pureed prunes and tofu–in which case, I’d go with the Caesar Salad.

    Chocolate Cake isn’t always as good as it may look on the plate.

  4. terrio says:

    I’m going to ignore that first part since I’m eating and I don’t want to bring it back up. Eeeewwww!

    In my book, bad chocolate cake is better than a good salad anyday. Which is ironic since I’m actually eating salad…

  5. Santa says:

    I think The Rolling Stones said it best when they sang “You can’t always get what you. You get what you need.”

    It would follow that writing, as it has become to me, is all about wanting and needing. I want to be published…to have someone find my book to be something others would want to read. But I have also come to find that I need to tell this story and more.

    I totally understand where you are coming from about being a bit envious to those who’ve already finished their WIPs and have crossed over to calling them MSS. I’ve been working on this one for two years. Should I throw in the towel because it’s taken some others six months? Is their mss better than mine? No, not better just different. And as Hellion said, there are rewrites even if you’ve been editing as you go…which is what I do.

    As Bill Cosby said chocolate cake is good for you. It’s got eggs and milk which are good. Cocoa isn’t that bad either. So what if there’s flour and sugar. It’s all about balance and perception.

    Here’s another musical quote: Our day will come and we’ll have everything. Of course, I can’t remember the name of the group….

  6. Ya know Terri, when I typed the words “The End” on my MS it was to find that I’d really only just Is that discouraging?lol. Sorry!
    As far as wanting what you’ve got?*blink,blink* I’m a work in progress, I’m sure I’ll achieve that someday!!!

  7. terrio says:

    You have a point as always, Santa. And how could I forget the stones? LOL! Of course you shouldn’t throw in the towel. Unless your hero is wearing it then you can feel free to let him remove it and throw it anywhere he want. *w*

    Kelly – somehow that is encouraging. I think. LOL! So THE END is really YOU’RE FOOLING YOURSELF IF YOU THINK THIS IS FINISHED. That makes perfect sense.

  8. quantum says:

    Terri, three sayings come to mind:

    1)A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down.
    2)A little of what you fancy does you a power of good.
    3)Moderation in all things leads to healthy living.

    A little creative cooking with these ingredients may provide a tasty solution to your little difficulty.


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